Self-Respect is Love

Self-Respect is Love

Focusing on yourself is positive reinforcement. Along the years, most  women and men alike lose sight of themselves. Respect is a word that is defined in Aretha Franklin’s song, which most people have heard. Respect is a state of being, quite frankly, a state of mind. Your morals and values, among other sophisticated words determine the way you feel about yourself. When someone feels inferior to you, they will try to break you. They will do their best to talk to you like you are beneath them, irrelevant, and try to make you choose between their ways and yours. Always pick your way of doing things, because they are trying to influence your life and manipulate. Having self-respect, even addressing these two words mean that you must know yourself first. Who are you? What have you learned throughout your life which made you change yourself, your goals you wanted to accomplish, what you value, and defines who you will become.

For individuals who just live day to day, maybe you are secure in who you are and love the facts of life taking its toll on you; which makes you complacent or just satisfied. There are still some things that you need to consider. Do you really respect yourself? Compromising who you are to please others is clearly not the answer, despite of what you do people will always find a reason not to respect you. Go for whatever it is that you want, and you will succeed, there is no time for doubt. I do not how many times I have talked to others and they express to me that they just do not know who they are anymore. Life has thrown them curves, twists, and turns which make them feel like they are lost.

Stand up straight, with your shoulders back, and always look people in their eyes are a few demands that parents train their children to do. At least, you have enough respect for yourself not to be intimidated. Never and I mean, never let anyone intimidate you into losing sight of who you are as well as the goals that you want to accomplish. Think about it, what is worse than not knowing your worth or where you belong? Sometimes you do not belong to any group, you cannot be classified, or placed into a specific category. Count your blessings, you are unique, you are creative, and no one understands you; which should make it that much easier to persevere. Do not let the doubt of others determine what your place is in the world. Start your own business, write your own book, blog until you cannot blog anymore, and you will see that everything you have been through was not for you. Well, it was, meant for you to endure, just not fail, failure is not an option. Self-respect is knowing who you are and being aware of oneself: weaknesses, flaws, and strengths. Dedicate some time into finding your self-respect, because I can tell you one thing, “No one will Respect you more than yourself.” No one will value you like you do, so remember to not let your situation determine your circumstance, walk with your head high and push through the difficult times.