Are we Failing our children?
Have you ever thought about what your children think about themselves, let alone, why it is so hard for some children to make it through one day of school without getting into trouble? If you are one of the parents who feel that it is the teacher, then maybe you have never considered your position in your child’s life. However, if you are a parent who feels that you do not understand your child or their behavior. Then this is for you. If your child is doing well, then I commend you and your child.
Think about the first behaviors that children learn, where does it first develop? Who are they watching? Maybe you do not know… I’ll wait…., . Well, the answer is the parent or person raising them. Which means if you are a parent who has low self esteem or perhaps, are just confused about where your life has gone. Nine times out of ten your children develop those same emotions or feelings. As parents we are the first people that our children interact with and other than genetic disadvantages, and autism playing a role. Parents set the tone for the child, as far as, how they respond to certain issues, how they feel on a regular basis, and even their perception on life. Sometimes, parents seem to be the best parent that they can possibly be, and children just want more or do not understand what they are going through. It is okay to not know what is going on with you, but when it comes to your children, it is pertinent that you figure it out. If you do not try to figure out your space in the world, then your children will find themselves lost as well.
Some children excel at standardized tests, while others, no matter if they receive straight A’s in school, do not; has nothing to do with them not knowing the material. It may be the delivery of the test that confuses or overwhelms them. See most of our children just want us to be proud of them which is why they always are looking for approval from their parents. These children may be perfect little angels but along the way, life seems to be a bit much for them. So how do you handle a child who is bright and cannot seem to keep themselves out of trouble? First make sure that you know your child and learn that it is okay to get them tested. Yes, I said tested, for a variety learning disabilities and even conflicting attitudes or behaviors. This is vital to your child’s well-being. Yes, you do not want your child labelled by other people, however it is happening anyway. They are labeling your children as bad, disrespectful, and will never become anything other than another statistic. Next, you need to face your fears and get yourself together, because your child is watching you and how you respond to adversity. Then you have to keep your composure and become aware of everything around your child, whether it is the afterschool care, what school they attend, or even their environment. Revise these key items with the understanding that it takes sacrifice. So are you going to fight until the end for your child, trust me; I am not talking about the teacher. Yes, get out of the teachers face and get control of your child(ren). I know that it may be hard for you all to grasp because you know your child(ren) so well. Yeah…. Get your child help, counseling, MRI, testing, whatever it takes for them to succeed. If you do not, then your child will only be another statistic, just plain and simple. Unless you take action. I am not telling you something that I have heard, but what I know and see. So be that as it may and feel offended, good, now maybe you will quit failing them for your own selfishness. Do not let your situation determine your children’s future!